What is relationship abuse?
- Approx. 70% of college students say they have been sexually coerced.
- One quarter of high school girls have been victims of physical or sexual abuse.
- Eight states currently do not include dating relationships in their definitions of domestic violence
- 2 to 4 million american women are abused each year.
- According to the FBI, a woman is battered every 15 seconds
- Nearly half of men who abuse their partners also abuse their children
- Studies show that women face the greatest risk of assault when they threaten to leave or report the abuse to authorities
- 90-95% percent of domestic violence victims are women
- Nearly one in three women experience domestic violence in their lifetime
- Women between the ages of 16 and 24 experience the highest rate of domestic violence and sexual assault
- Each year approx. 3.3 million children are exposed to abuse against their female caretakers.
What are the signs of an abusive relationship?
- You get pressured for an exclusive commitment almost immediately.
- Your partner is excessively possessive, calls constantly, or visits unexpectedly.
- Your partner is overly controlling, interrogates your whereabouts, makes you ask for permission before doing things.
- Your partner has unrealistic expectations of you.
- Your partner tries to isolate you, and cuts you off from family and friends.
- Your partner blames others for their own mistakes, and makes others responsible for their feelings
- Your partner is easily insulted and often complains about the unfairness of their life.
- Your partner is cruel to animals and children.
- Your partner uses excessive force when being intimate.
- Your partner criticizes, degrades, calls you names, and uses vulnerable parts of your life against you.
- There are specific gender roles.
- Your partner has sudden mood swings.
- Your partner has an abusive past.
- There are threats of violence.
How to get help:
- Get a restraining order
- Call the help hotlines
- Look for red flags
- Identify safe areas
- Be ready to leave at a moments notice
- There are other people experiencing the same thing somewhere else
- You are never alone and there are people who love you
- There are people who can help you
- It is all going to be okay
- You did not cause this and you are not to blame for your abusers behavior
- You deserve to feel safe
- You deserve respect
- Your children deserve to be raised in a safe and healthy environment